Someone once wrote that in order to function in this world you need twelve hugs a day. The reference was to good mental health, but I contend that spiritually and physically everyone needs a hug a day at the very least. People that live alone are depleted of their daily hug. They might go for days, weeks or months on end before they get a hug and this drought in hugs might adversely affect them. Sometimes people who live in households with others are light on hugging, too. How, then, do they function? Is depression and despondency evident? I haven’t done enough research on this topic to make a scientific hypothesis. I can speak from personal experience though and make these observations: 1)Hugging feels good and is missed if not received daily, 2)Giving hugs is as good as receiving them, 3)Hugs can surprise the recipient especially if received from someone you never expected to get one from. There are some people who are fearful of hugging. “Maybe, my hug will be misinterpreted.”, they think.These fearful misgivings can be harmful as they might limit or eliminate hugging How sad it would be if hugging wasn’t allowed or was limited due to a person’s fear of the event. My theory is that it is better to take a risk of hugging someone than to deny yourself the experience, so, go out and hug someone today!
Zippers main purpose is to secure an outfit. Whether they are used to keep trousers on or to keep a purse closed most zippers operate smoothly without ever getting stuck. Zippers are varied in the different colors they come in and in the types of materials they are made out of: plastic, brass, gold, nylon. Most zippers operate so normally that someone using them doesn’t stop and ponder the unique properties and technical mechanics which keep them working each and every time they are used. There are, however, zippers that get stuck. Small bits of material interfere with the flow of these zippers and frustrate their users! No matter how many times the user tugs and pulls at these zippers they don’t work.
Relationships in my life remind me of these zippers. My first major relationship seemed secure and functioned and operated smoothly for over thirty years.Then, it abruptly ended. No amount of pleading and tears,like the pulling and tugging of a snagged zipper could fix the broken relationship, or in the case of the zipper could repair it. The next relationship was similar to a zipper which is like one in a slightly worn outfit; it isn’t new, but it still works. This relationship seemed strong, durable until it, too, ended. There were misunderstandings, mistrust, and dishonesty in this relationship and it could not survive.Then there was the relationship built on trust and faith, kind of like a durable, reliable zipper. This relationship came together after a fifty year absence, it had weathered time similar to a zipper that had been used again and again and continued to work well. It was a secure, functional, attractive zipper which would have lasted for a very long time, but was ravaged by rust and simply wore out. The relationship was loving, filled with faith and trust and would have lasted for a very long time also except one of the people in the union died. A body worn out, a breath stopped, like a zipper which stopped working.
The last relationship in this zippered life is the one that was there from the beginning and yet ignored. This is the relationship with the maker of all the zippers. The maker knows the material of each zipper and knows what needs to be done for each zipper to function properly. God is like the zipper maker. He knows what each relationship needs to grow, develop and mature because He knows individuals. He is certainly the best one who knows me! In order for any zipper to work to full capacity, or any relationship to work to full potential seeking the maker’s advice is a wise choice. When I buy a zippered outfit I may not consult the master zipper maker. If the zipper works I will most likely buy the outfit. However, when it comes to decisions in my life whether it is concerning future relationships or any decision I might make I will seek the Master, the Maker for His wisdom and guidance because He has a plan for me!